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R.E.S.P.E.C.T. – Find out what it means to me!

Tuesday, 24th May 2011

R.E.S.P.E.C.T. – Find out what it means to me!


It has recently been brought to my attention that I waste a lot of my time and worry on people that clearly do not respect me.

While I am working through the process of dealing with such issues, I feel the need to have a little rant and get it off my shoulders!

But first a little conflict in my thought process…..

Ok, I was raised in a loving environment where it was expected that children would show respect to their elders,

and then my brain tells me to stop wasting my time respecting people that don’t show me the same respect back.

Sounds fairly simple.

So what does one do when it’s an elder or 2 not showing me respect??? Hmmmm…..


I would like to think that I am a fairly capable human being. I have my ups and my downs, nothing too far from the ordinary and have managed to hold together a family unit for the last 8 or so years.

My marriage is healthy, my children are fed, clothed, bathed and have a roof over their head (some would even say SPOILT ROTTEN) and most of all they are loved and respected as the individuals that they are!

So why then is it that these people should feel the need to intrude onto my turf, criticize my life and then demand the respect that an elder would usually receive? Clearly the respect is not mutual.

Ordinarily I would shrug it off and just be grateful for the happiness I do have, however this time it is grating on every nerve in my body. I am angry. I am upset. And most of all I am disappointed that they think it’s acceptable.

So tonight I am taking a stand.

I will Housewife the way I have for the last 8 years to the satisfaction of MY husband and family.

I will Parent MY children how I wish them to be raised.

I will allow MY children to do what I believe is acceptable within our family rules.

and my Husband and I will make the decisions on how many children we have.

We’re not talking rocket science.

We’re talking reality.

I am a grown up. I do grown up things.

I value advice. I even value constructive criticism.

But what I value more than anything is RESPECT.

My time is precious. As are the amazing family and friends in my life that do respect us.

I think you get the jist…..



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    1. Jess

      Go, Jac! Stick to your guns, sweetie. Of course you and your husband know what's best for YOUR family. I know it's disheartening when you feel that your being critiqued and judged on values that are none of anybody else's business. YOU DO AN AMAZING JOB! Keep on doing what your heart knows is best for you and your loved ones. Nothing else matters xxxx

    2. commonchaoschronicle

      Thanks Jess! Think I have just been too submissive with too many things for too long! xo You've just inspired my song of the day! xo

    3. Krystal

      Well done for taking a stand Jac. It's not the easiest thing in the world to do, even if you don't like what is going on around you, it's extremely hard to tell people (well I know it is for me) that they need to take a step back. It's a decision I had to make recently with a lot of advice - some from yourself LOL! It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do but it got the respect I thought I deserved. Unfortunately people are beginning to slip back inot their old habits and I'm going to have to do something again which upsets me greatly :( but you know you have to "wo-man up" and do it occasionally for your own sanity :)

    4. Perhaps you can just say, "thank you for your advice, I value your experience and will consider how best to apply it to my family" Non-committal, polite, everyone wins.

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