To achieve pretty much anything around Chaos HQ, I have to have a list. If it’s not written down, there’s a fair chance that it won’t get done.
For years I have been writing lists the size of China, detailing what needs to be done and who was going to do it.
In fact you could probably assume I was some kind of ‘list addict’.
Over the last few years though I noticed that at the end of each day, I would stare at the long list on the bench and feel frustrated and overwhelmed with the lack of ticks against the never-ending tasks.
I knew I had been non-stop busy all day yet I couldn’t seem to keep up with my own expectations of what needed to be done…And realistically I’m not the only one.
In a perfect world we’d all complete our 30 odd tasks by 11am and spend the day the rest of the day basking in the sunshine….. No, no, no, because realistically, things come up, kids get sick, cars break down, and visitors pop in.
Basically, LIFE HAPPENS.
During the worst moments of my Post Natal Depression, I realised that I had to make a change, I had to cut back on my expectations and get realistic about what life is really like living in a house with 6 kids.
There are days where I can complete 30 tasks, but 9 times out of 10, if I can tick 4 or 5 things off a list, then it’s been an awesome day.
Another thing that has been drummed into me during this stint of PND is to allow myself ‘something for me’, no matter how small, each and everyday.
Yes at first I scoffed and smirked and said “Yeah Right” but I have developed the habit of ‘making time’ and I cannot tell you how important those few minutes here and there really are.
It doesn’t have to be massive, but let the 5th thing on your list each day be something especially just for you.
Stay at home Mums and Dads have the hardest, most demanding (not to mention mundane) job in the world. Often days moosh together and the daily grind drags on and on amongst the chaos.
My +1 task everyday reminds me that I’m not just a mum, wife, house cleaner and bum wiper, I’m Jacqui too, with interests, goals, hobbies and dreams.
Trust me, it’s important.
So if you’re looking to get motivated or need to get realistic about what you can get done, join me on the Common Chaos Chronicle Facebook page each day where we share our TOP 4 +1 more tasks.
Do lists help you achieve your daily goals?