Pregnancy - Monster #7

What’s In A Name? To Share Or Not To Share?

Monday, 19th March 2012

What’s In A Name? To Share Or Not To Share?


“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet.”

Romeo and Juliet (II, ii, 1-2)


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Naming a baby is a massive job.

There are all sorts of things that come into it.

Some people like to keep with family traditions, some people like to do their own thing.

Others prefer traditional names and others like something more unique.

The main point being, no mater what we call our children, they’re going to be loved and cherished no matter what.

After much deliberation, (you see deciding on a name gets increasingly more difficult when you’re up to number 7), my husband and I have come to a decision about what we want to call our newborn son in July.

Now I know plenty of people that will happily tell you the names they have picked out for their child, before it has even been born. I have often wondered why they might do this and my only assumption is that they don’t want anyone else to pinch their beloved baby name.

Sounds fair, but if you’re anything like me, you probably wouldn’t give a bugger anyway.

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We like to keep our baby names a secret until the birth for a couple of reasons.

The first reason being, that we have found out the sex of our child through ultrasound and shared this news already. I believe with the birth of a new baby there should be some element of surprise and something to celebrate when they actually arrive. So in saying that, we have shared the sex, we want to keep his name as the surprise.

The second reason we don’t like to share, is that I am prone to changing my mind. In fact, hubby reckons it’s almost my right as a woman to um…. and ahhh….. and change my mind 500 times before I confirm anything on a legal document. While I am certain of the name now, it doesn’t mean I wont wake one morning and suggest a change. And I can imagine this may upset some organised friends and family that have gone out of their way to personalise baby items…

The third and final reason that we don’t share the name until we have held our bub in our arms, looked in his eyes and ‘named’ him, is because I do not want to hear people’s opinions and advice on what we should and shouldn’t name our child, what we can and can’t name our child and why it’s a good or bad idea because they once knew a child with that name.

I often wonder if these opinionated do-gooders would tell me to my face if they disagreed with a name when they held my child in their arms…… Probably not.

So all I am asking for is a little respect on the matter.

Friends, family, readers of this blog, my other children, please stop spouting guesses at us. Please stop nagging and pestering us (especially Aria & Grandma!!). You will all know in good time and love our new addition no matter what his name is!!!

Do you like to share the name of your child before the birth?

Do you have a list and wait to see what your baby looks like?

I’d love for you to comment on this post and let me know how it works for your family.

To share or not to share, that is the question……





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    1. We did share what the names would be, not that anyone really cared. The PIA bit is when family try to change your mind at the choice you've made. I mean hello! It's OUR child not theirs!

    2. Kathy

      We like to pick unusual names, or rather uncommon ones, can't start with the same initial we've already used, try to avoid family names and we definitely don't spill the beans beforehand. Mostly because we like to wait till they're born before we find out the gender, lol! I also HATE other's input into our babies names, and will change a name I've finally settled on, if hubby spills the beans, even to the other kids! After 7 girls and 4 boys, it is getting more difficult, hehe. :)

    3. Tammy

      We shared our names with people because, well i was very excited to because i LOVED my girls name lol. We never found out our baby's sex and not because we didn't want to :(. I think i would of shared the names i had picked and if sex was known kept that to myself, partner and maybe our mothers. Lucky for me i always knew i would have a beautiful baby GIRL and we called her Ayla Jade :D. Love your blog just finished reading through the whole thing lol.

    4. commonchaoschronicle

      Thanks for your comment Tammy, I'm glad you've stopped by and enjoyed visiting Common Chaos Chronicle. :-) Jac xo

    5. Alena

      We did the same as you... shared the sex but not the name... That was our little bit of excitement. Everyone guessing on what we were going to call him but not knowing until... I too was worried that because I loved the name I had chosen, that someone would tell me a reason not to call him what we had chosen... Can't wait to hear he has arrived. x

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